The Issue Of Gender Roles - 1791 Words

Introduction In this paper I will discuss the issue of gender roles in marriage. I will be exploring the debated question of: who should lead a marriage through decision making, direction, and preference. Throughout the paper I will argue that a marriage is not centered on one figure and that it takes two people to make everyday decisions that effect the direction of a marriage along with theological gender roles in a marriage. Equal say and the establishment of roles in a marriage are crucial for a long term, happy, and successful marriage. To have a successful marriage certain roles of men and women must be me in order to produce a long and happy marriage. This topic is very important to me because I grew up in a household where my†¦show more content†¦I do think though that the roles we take on in a marriage somewhat effect the overall decisions that each spouse makes. Why Establish Gender Roles? When two people join their lives together, how do they decide on a direction that they will lead their marriage? What if the habits of one another are annoying or inconsistent with their own? What if they have a difference in priorities? Marriages have indefinite answer to these questions. In general counselors suggest couples should compromise or take turns in decision making role of the relationship. This solution generally doesn’t work. Many spouses end up saying, We decided your way last time, thus leading to conflict. Often, there are also disputes on what is a good compromise between the married couple. Similarly, consider how you would feel about this radical situation: you decided on where to eat last night, now I am going to decide on what car we should buy. Both trading-off and compromising might be useful in certain situations, but it is often found problematic and has it flaws. Some decisions do not have compromising as an option. Suppose a couple does not agree on where to live. If they compromise, they may end up living in an area they both despise. In real life it is the more powerful partner is usually the one that gets the other one to subdue to their overall ruling and authority. Partners of less power need to decide how much they are willing to take. It is important as Christians in